If This Were 1968, I'd Be In Tears Right Now....

 

It’s well known that nothing disturbs or easily distracts a New Yorker, or any life-long urbanite in a busy, crowded environment.  Sirens, cars, subway car entertainers and acrobatic acts no one invited, loud smartphones and people conversing on them, train conductor announcements of things we all know too well already, they all combine to compose the rhythm of city life.  The expressway below one’s flat is the white noise that instills our sleep.  On a visit to the country some time back for a much-needed getaway, I was kept madly awake all night by the blessed silence.

But there does remain one sound that for many remain too piercing, enough to break the deepest concentration.  That’s the sound of an infant’s incessant cry.

There’s been enough published and established studies on just why that’s the case, and all the neurological human links and synapses that support that, to have to bring them all up here.  But the point is, all those studies and tests prove that we’re indeed not a bunch of holograms or AI software components.  Being disturbed by a child’s cry makes you human.

Parents bearing infants or very small children at their side are in many situations well-aware of just how disconcerting the explosive wail of their child can be to a docile room, and might even be inclined to dash out with their young when they suddenly erupt.  Sometimes though, given the place and the situation, they can’t.  Like on transportation.  Mass transit is famous for this, and riders won’t be too deterred by the annoyance.  But sometimes it’s just a little easier to be affected.  I couldn’t help noticing the plight of an eighteen-month-old boy and his young parents one night on the E train. He was planted in a deluxe stroller, completely boxed in by transparent plastic-cover walls, looking something like the Popemobile. The caged-in kid was in a tearful rage.  Despite whatever his mama did on the outside to entertain him visually, he would not be placated.   At one point his foot became free of the cage and she zipped open just enough to squash him back in, upon which he really kicked and screamed.  A great finale as they reached their stop and departed.

That was an endurance enough for this spectator.  And I’m pretty sure any veteran parent, old or young will laugh at this and care to attack with, “You think that’s bad…?  You haven’t raised a child…”

Well, touche, I guess.  Accepting the challenge is probably what immunizes you to the emotional effect driven by all those studied neurological synapses that end up distracting a subway rider when four young swinging, kicking acrobats don’t.  The question however remains, is that branch of human survival necessarily an entirely good one…?

Again, too much question, long and deeply investigated by others and not enough space here.  But the fact remains, by human design, babies cry.

And humans placate them.  And in their nurturing, growing children are generally taught not to, as a default. 

Our sociological structure is one that makes no room whatsoever for such emotional frailty.  Even if specialists, counselors and TV doctors are showing up all over the place in the 21^st century, informing us of the value of crying, excoriating us for teaching boys not to cry, and trying desperately to educate us on coming to terms with embracing and accepting our human sensitivities that make life occasionally inconvenient, the world around us just won’t have it.  A room full of people won’t put their lives on “pause” for those who have to finally just bury the rag in their face when it’s time for their tears.  Especially since, in a good many cases, people just might.

In almost any high-pitched, and sometimes hostile encounter of dispute, maybe a work situation or at some public facility, things can chug forward in an almost boringly predictable fashion.  The boss won’t relent, co-worker or client won’t cooperate, people at the front desk won’t accept my ID or form that’s supposed to get me what I desperately need and rode three hours on the train here to accomplish.  Argument ensues.  Things get loud. Ultimately the disillusioned, troubled party marches out of the room with stoic indignance.  But what if he or she doesn’t..?  What if that showdown is resolved suddenly in a flood of desperate sobs..?

While one’s collapse into tears can in fact diffuse an angered stalemate like the symbolic thunderstorm in Sidney Lumet’s famed adaptation of Twelve Angry Men, all too often, it will lead many parties in the room to suddenly judge and dismiss the crier as less-than-capable of playing this game.

The Judeo-Christian ethic as we’ve come to know it in the post-Depression-Era, war and crime-scarred world, decrees that crying remains a form of correctable weakness.  If there’s one thing we’re effectively taught as cubs, it’s to obliterate and beat that foolish desire to cry. It’s a behavior reserved for infants, unwelcome on the part of an adult in any mixed or social situation, and what’s more, you just might end up tempering an entire room with it.

That’s bad.

The sudden display of that kind of desperate, uncontrollable collapse on the part of a sober adult can bear a very manipulative effect on a room full of strangers, at least.  Ones that don’t uncomfortably bolt from the room might be inclined to approach and try and comfort and communicate with the crier.  Maybe support or rally to their cause, try to help them immediately alleviate their crisis. Mainly because people don’t ordinarily, under any healthy circumstance, behave this way, and maybe it’s up to us to help this injured party, the way we’d want and need were we the victim.

You just can’t have humanity playing out like that all over the place. Three or four more people letting it all hang out and crying wolf like that, and no one’s ever gonna get anything done. A trend like that could put society out of business for good.  At least that’s how us cubs are taught.  If you’re not careful about that, you could make some enemies you didn’t know you had.

I knew an extremely dear young lady once, who reportedly lost more than three office jobs, despite her steel efficiency.  A mystery until a friend of hers candidly explained:  The young woman had this tendency, upon any “must-work-well-under-stress” situation, to melt down into a pile of tears, not unlike Holly Hunter in Broadcast News.  Of course, in the movie, Holly made a point of breaking down privately, where she wouldn’t scare anyone.  This young lady wasn’t afraid to scare anybody.  Her fearlessness made her the bane of the polite, kind, caring team’s existence.  In three different outfits.

So what do us full-grown lions do, living by these rules and consequences..?  If we don’t antagonize and terrorize others, we internalize.  That’s a great way to get along.  It’s a gateway to sleep loss, depression and a life of metabolic dysfunction and illness.  But it’s also what sells products, dreams, bolsters the Faith Movement, and keeps this commercial orbit spinning.  Do you really want to be the one to genuinely stop the world by bursting into tears in the middle of the room..?

There’s certainly a plethora of more dignified and impressive ways to vent one’s frustration or depression, on any level, clinical or sub.  People old and young are resorting to them in these United States more than ever, with weaponry more attainable in ways that will not, for too many reasons, see blockade.  Would these potential perpetrators in fact be able to seek and receive the help they need before their violent intentions become action..?

Those of us not so mentally disturbed or neurologically impaired remain the strong, the brave.  The ultimately normal Hawkeye Pierces in the M*A*S*H series that is our daily lives.

As I recall, I cried too much as a boy, reputedly after an infanthood not known for tearful departures.  I was raised by my sensitive, single mother in the 1970s, which probably explains it thoroughly.  But even she on occasion almost veered toward encouraging me to beat the inclination. I never disputed that, and thankfully never shed a tear again until I was nineteen and woke up late one night to find her drunk, after eight sober years, in the kitchen threatening to take her life.  I didn’t really know how to respond to this other than some Movie-Of-The-Week-styled emotional outburst, so I feigned a pile of petrified tears, until help arrived in the form of phone-woken relatives, who’d come over and scream it out ‘til everyone got tired and passed out.  Not ‘til a couple decades later would, sure enough, some suppressed metabolic and emotional depression send me into what I didn’t yet realize was a much needed corrective and cathartic drown in my own tears.  Nothing to be treated, or medicated.  Just damn well enjoyed.  And whether I knew it or not, I did.  I had to shelter in place for a few days.  Dashed out of rooms into phone booths and bathroom stalls when I had to.  But the onslaughts cleared up.  I just wish I could have understood and appreciated them more back when they were unpredictable.

None of that now. But that eighteen-month-old subway prisoner with no right to be upset, and I the same, shared one very common bond.  We were tired, angry, lonely, fearful, and just needed to screech our heads off.  Thanks to that benevolent young man the other night, I lived quite vicariously.  Now there’s a solid citizen.

 

Noah F.

Maybe It's Not All About The Bagels....

 

                             

As a child, in my formative years with my mom, growing up in my uncle’s home, Sunday morning was synonymous with bagels.  That also meant some “bialys”, loaf-shaped onion-egg rolls known as “Miamis”, a fresh vat of pink-labeled Temp-Tee cream cheese, and the Sunday Long Island Press, the weekly bundle garnished with the full-color comics I’d pour over once Wonderama with Bob McAllister was over on Channel 5.  Additionally, there’d be the Sunday New York Times, complete with the Sunday Times Magazine, and the weekly Crossword Puzzle, made of elite clues that kept my studious mom, uncle and anyone else in the room guessing.

You wouldn’t recognize it as Sunday without those fixtures…..the cuisine, the TV programs, the publications. I certainly wouldn’t have. Without all that, it just would have been some boring, weird, creepy day with no school.  That’s not to imply that there weren’t a few demure Sundays in my childhood nonetheless.  But the framework was provided.

Sundays actually had a little more to them than that.  A kid raised in an early 1970s semi-affluent (but what was more self-consciously termed in those days “middle-class”) home just might connect with some of this.  For some reason, when you’re a child of six or seven (me, anyway…), waking for school at 7am renders you incapable of anything except wanting to roll back into bed.  Weekends however find you invariably wide awake and ready for anything at 7am, while the grownups are conversely still fast asleep.  Typical pattern.  If you were equipped with a bedroom portable Panasonic b&w TV as I gratefully was, you had a friend to hang with until the place came to life.  I got to know my friends at the TV Bar & Grill on those early Sunday mornings.

In those days, local New York TV on Sunday mornings during the Sunday closed-retail establishment-era maintained what was known on the air as the “Public Affairs Ghetto”.  Elitist media critics would denounce television for restricting mostly anything artistically uplifting or educational, if ecumenical, to Sunday mornings before 11am.  The KidVid casino known to Saturday morning network television come 8am on Saturdays did not hold court on Sundays.  Sundays were a very quiet, sophisticated local zone, of religious presentations, a few anthology dramas, interviews and perhaps the one feature a kid my age could at least appreciate for fifteen minutes, re-runs of a 1960 Art Clokey stop-motion series called Davey & Goliath.  I had no idea where the title came from or why this was only seen on Sunday mornings.  But it was quite a nice act.  A little preachy, but nothing beyond the likes of PBS fare.  

It was a curiosity shop of fascination to a cub raised inside a Jewish pride, where Catholicism, Protestantism, Christianity nor any other denomination was readily discussed.   A lot of these TV shows involved references to attending Church on Sundays.   Of course, that wasn’t us, but other than my uncle making it to temple once every couple of Friday nights or Saturday mornings, we weren’t all there weekly.   I only tagged along sporadically myself, and never really picked up on what the Hebrew lyrics in those sing-alongs were all about in the service.

I probably ended up identifying more with the TV shows I’d gaze at on Sunday morning, like Davey & Goliath, with their sound moral themes.  The little feature always opened with this handsome image of the Cross. Being all of six and not really asking too many questions about things I’d see, or stuff no one was awake on Sunday morning to watch with me and explain, I was a little stunted one evening when we were all dashing through an airport corridor to meet a friend at the gate. As we passed the display window of a little religious shop, a gold cross necklace in the display, I stopped and gazed, asking my mom if I could ever have one of those.  She gasped in unanticipated shock.  I was just eager to acquire a promotional item of one of my favorite TV shows.

What eluded me about those now half-century-old times is that despite all or any family drama or comedy that ensued, it wasn’t just some but all of the above that made those times and those memories what they were and are.  And Sundays were just part of it.

Holidays were just as significant.  Residing in the hub of the family circle, our home was always host to the dinners and events.  Even when a shiva arrived.  You had Passover, Rosh Hashanah, and the frequent Sunday dinners that were preceded by loudly-spoken living room afternoons, serenated by either an old Spencer Tracy film or CBS NFL Sunday on the Zenith.   

As a family, we were certainly all together, not unlike a predictable D.C. House Session.  Cousins older and younger, moms, dads, the little ones I’d be navigating my way through.  But in many ways, those holiday surroundings meant something even more. 

As far as Thanksgiving, the one remaining universal such occasion still held by my cousins for surrounding family, my own held image of the holiday is a general fondness, certainly with regard to held memories of a four-day weekend and rarely-seen animated releases on The 4:30 Movie. Oddly however, in my time on Earth hence, I’ve not always seen the pressing need to flock to the holiday congregation with my fine relatives for the social gathering annually.

When conditions were all conducive, certainly.  In my singular days, if my odd-houred job wasn’t commandeering me otherwise, I’d make the mass-transit journey, way, way out to the far reaches of The Island, where I’d phone my hosts to come and retrieve me in the chariot and make the forty minute journey to their castle. A great time had, there’d be the obligatory “so, when’s your train pull in..?”, and the necessary “Okay, who wants to take a ride to the station..??” at 9:20pm, bellies full, wine consumed and locals looking to cruise home to bed.  There’d always be some willing party glad to oblige, though.  Even still, I’d find myself just a little out of place upon meeting up with a mostly suburban, relatively affluent set, with often little to bond over and discuss before, during and after the meal.  Great folks, just not a home-run blind date.  We had little in common.  A guy who runs an audio board at a radio station seven nights a week for non-union pay has little to share with a real estate broker, especially if sports is not a shared taste, and the broker hasn’t seen any good vintage Cassavettes films lately.

That’s admittedly a high bar, but not every animal of a species can be entirely at home in a like habitat.  I find now that despite the handsome squalor of my cousins’ nests, those impressive Martha Stewart ranches, to me they just don’t exude the warmth of what my uncle’s mid-to-late 1900s cozy shingler presented.  Obviously, that’s my own warped, self-propelled image, but in many ways that’s the point.  What made the surrounding, the setting, the “sitcom stage” if you will, of that tender portion of my so-called childhood, humor, dramatics, histrionics and all something you can no longer “go home to” on the LIRR, is a gift that only my mind and heart can cherish and cultivate.   I know some of my dear cousins share at least some of that too in their own cranial zones, and that’s in fact what bonds our tempered connections to this day. 

I can’t be sure my younger cousin even realizes just how profoundly grateful I am for his efforts at maintaining a kind of mandatory contact upon the holidays, and hosting the family summit each Thanksgiving.  But I can speak to the remorse I have to contend with when my own immediate work schedule nowadays might pre-empt me from being in attendance that very particular Thursday.  Yes, in this cancel-culture world, some of us still have to meet our grownup responsibilities on collective holidays.  Unconscionable by many, but an inconvenient truth in a world of growing rents, and inflation twice what it was in 1974, when I was too small to know what it was.

Getting married can change a game too.  Sometimes it means uniting with someone who marches in like a state leader, bonding immediately and forcefully with the in-laws and mandating summit attendance throughout the year, on no uncertain terms.   But that’s not who I joined forces with.  I’m with a more independent spirit, who’s glad to join into an instant come-on-over when the coordinates are all aligned.  But if, like her spouse, her work schedule comes calling for an early-morning arrival on Black Friday, late-night commuter transit arrival home, well past midnight just isn’t an option for these non-driving OMNY-carders. 

Ask yourself this very honest question, single or not, parent or not:  Are you always up for an evening of well-dressed small-talk with very kind and welcoming folks with whom you’ll likely have little in common, and bore to tears with your conversation-sparking efforts..?  Is it a little hard to mosh into conversation pits on Trump, the recent Mayor, and the Hamas situation when you don’t really follow politics or watch Fox, CNN or Newsmax..?  Are you sports-illiterate to the point of merely nodding and muttering, “Well, Of Course..!” in a shared circle, like Peter Sellers in Being There..? 

Does the overwhelming Norman Rockwell ascension of the obligatory silver platter and immense, golden-roasted bird, along with endless platters of exquisite side dishes few will consume more than a spoonful of politely, (and most will kindly decline from “doggie-bagging” home) find you kind of overheated in the soft G.E. light, and less than appetized..?

If you answered “No..! What are you talking about..?!”, well you’re a good solid Middle Class American.   But should an answer of “yes” be a source of shame..?

If you asked me that thirty years ago, I’d say it’s no question, and kept my shame to myself.  In today’s just slightly more enlightened world, despite all the ignorant cancel-culturing and obligatory oversensitivity, there is in fact greater insight and acceptance for those of us not always comfortable in every optional setting.

Yes, there are some that still will term one’s aversion to something like Thanksgiving gatherings with people to whom one holds no differences as “anti-social”.  But maybe, much like the bagels, the lox, the cream cheese, the magazines and the puzzles that furnished Sunday mornings, perhaps there’s still more to an appreciation of the principle of Thanksgiving than that.

My wife bears every intent upon our solitary occasions to create our own festive, if portion-smaller holiday spread.  I’ll heat up the browser and uncork a vintage bottle of 1977 CBS NFL Sunday, replete with commercials and prime-time promos.  Not for the game, but for the atmosphere.  It’s a habitat In which I can practice gratitude best.   We’re tired.  We worked late last night.  We have to work early in the morning.  We can always call others and wish a happy Turkey Day on the spot.  But maybe….just maybe, we don’t quite have to. 

The day is about personal gratitude.  We know what we mean to one-another, and one single event day on the calendar and its inaccessability can’t change that.  But we can put our hearts, minds and attitudes in the right place.  That includes self-image.   And on Thanksgiving, at my age, I’m too grateful to compromise mine.

 

“Happy Thanksgiving...” – Robbie Robertson, Winterland Auditoriium, encore, 1976.

 

Noah F.

Walking Free Will Not Save Us, According To Reports....

 

They’re still at it.

Far be it from the likes of myself to question success, but my hat goes off to the inventive entrepreneur.

For twenty years or more, an outfit known as the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention has been soliciting for and collecting some handsome funds from the public at large.  It’s for an important and notably visceral and emotionally charged cause.

It’s a cause predicated upon something very intimate within any given self, often one very misguided and irrational.  And sometimes, despite any ethical stance, one quite well thought out and very disturbingly rational.

The taking of one’s life is one of multi-faceted reason and decision.  Irrational acts have certainly long been the stuff of impassioned, and maybe at times substance-influenced youth or adults. I don’t quite know if the leaders and officers of the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention are capable of recognizing that these Bible-old behaviors are not going to at any time soon be affected or re-directed by some organizational movement akin in image to a population of wide-eyed young folks all joined in hand on a sunny hilltop, chiming a musical hymn like a 1970 Coca-Cola ad with vocal backing by The New Seekers.  But that apparently didn’t deter a batch of suicide-affected young folks from banding together and forming a fund-raising organization designed to, in some way, shape or form “get the word out there”, and influence America at large to kick that dangerous suicidal impulse.  You know, the one that comes on when the girlfriend dumps you, or you decide at 3AM on a Saturday night when you can’t fit into those party jeans that you’re just never gonna lose that 25 pounds, or maybe you’re all of thirteen and perhaps much like Todd Solondz’ fatal hero Dawn Weinerdog in the acclaimed 1996 film Welcome To The Dollhouse, you’re arriving at the realization that you’ll never see any civil justice against the unfair bullying that’s slowly murdering you every single day in school, and the only logical move left would be to emerge dead at last.  It’s only understandable that people close to and bearing an affection for those they’ve lost under those circumstances may not have been able to resolve their pain, but are nonetheless, in Howard Beale Network fashion, just Mad as Hell, and are Not Gonna Take It Anymore.

That’s certainly enough to build a trending foundation upon:  Collective aggravation, and the determination to see better.  I wouldn’t mind a crime-free New York and violence-free America myself, one where rents freeze and all middle-agers can look forward to comfortable retirement unconditionally after fifty years of getting up, going to work and getting emotionally abused every single day of their lives.

Somehow though, I don’t think there’s a grownup around who doesn’t recognize, at least deniably, that the world doesn’t work that way. Almost any functioning human of some wisdom-endowed age will maintain some regimen of solemn and daily prayer in their lives, of some sort.  It may not change the world, but it certainly comforts the way the praying human sees it, and for that human, that’s literally all that matters. 

Prayer might correct some of the surrounding wrongs we have to rationalize our way through every single day, the way we didn’t really have to as children of vast question and inquiry. But movement-intensive organizations of people likely won’t affect that sort of change.  If you’re talking about something like New York’s Guardian Angels, who formed a youth army to work in tandem with law enforcement more or less, about fifty years ago, to combat crime in the subway, that’s an effective organized movement.  Citizens forming neighborhood clean-up groups to tidy up parks are a worthy cause, too.  What does an emotionally scarred body of people do as a unit to eradicate suicide..? 

Citizens have faced arrest from time to time when their outward suicidal efforts have threatened to harm or disturb the peace of others.  But often, the more intent efforts will involve perhaps a weapon or a drug-induced end on a very well-hidden, solitary level.  And there lies the eternal question:  would circumventing that person’s act in the moment have cured their intention forever..?  

Maybe it would, and maybe that’s kind of the problem.  Because whether anyone wants to accept this or not, to take one’s life may not in fact always be what might be termed ethically arguable.

There are good people in some extremely, dangerously untenable situations in their lives, that perhaps only monetary miracles could mitigate.  Controversial author Barbara Ehrenreich in her 2000 manifesto, Nickel and Dimed, outrightly admitted that perhaps a 1930s Great Depression wasn’t necessary for some U.S. residents in sheer destitution today to simply end their struggle logically with their own bodily final option.  Not all are willing and courageous enough to come to New York City and become full-time beggars and subway platform residents. 

Not everyone will recall one of the greatest personal substance addiction dramas of the 1900s, a TV production by David Wolper based on a Jack Weiner memoir, brought to life with painful acuity by actor Dick Van Dyke in 1974, a film called The Morning After.  It’s not a shining tale of redemption, but rather a realistic portrait of the suggestive fatalism of alcohol addiction.  The 1986 TV-movie Vital Signs featured Ed Asner in yet another realistic depiction of an aging and prominent surgeon, who succumbs to his dangerous alcoholic battle, one that threatens his son’s life and medical career, by ending his life, quietly and politely.  His passing is met very tacitly at his memorial by many.

The take-out package here is that the act of suicide, while denounced by that holy compass, The Bible, still remains a final option to many, and one that cannot be morally or ethically shelved on any generally acceptable terms unifiably.  Nonetheless, the movement is entirely understandable. In keeping with perhaps the holiest system in our nation, Under God, Invincible, to bring acceptability to the act of Self-Unaliving might actually bring harm or loss to so many of our economic structures, like realtors who need paying tenants.  Hospitals who need surviving patients.  Prisons that need prisoners to scale their federal and state funding, as well as juvenile detention centers and courthouses that couldn’t function without a requisite number of felons and offenders every day.  Are we really going to let the funeral directors walk off with the bulk of economic gain..?  Not by any moral design, if we can help it.

And thank goodness there’s an organization unafraid to step forward and help it, repugnance be damned.  They’re not going to do anything militant about their resolve, like march down the boulevard all day.  Instead, they’ll walk.  At night.  In group funded, logo-branded T-shirts to advertise their contribution-based movement.  But this isn’t some coin-in-the-can thing.  I stepped in on one of these AFSP overnight walk recruitment things way back when, in heightened curiosity.  I expected a few brochures and a pitch for maybe thirty bucks.  You had to sign a contract to commit to raising $1K personally, through ten $100.00 donations.  I thanked the Amway-reminiscent hosts with great awe, and resolved to help the suicide -affected in perhaps a similar, less costlier way.  I met up with a friend who’d lost a life-taken loved one not long prior.  She, myself and a friend of hers met up one evening for a nighttime stroll together.  A few hours of talk, tears and laughs.  I sprung for the coffee.   But we all made it home by midnight.   We had to work the next day, and we understood.  That resolving suicide won’t happen by walking, T-shirt wearing and raising or donating $1,000.00 to do so.  But by understanding, surviving, and living. 

-Noah F.

 

 

 

Health Ball

 

I’m no expert on baseball.  Really.  I know who Bob Murphy and Ralph Kiner were, but unlike a globe full of sports enthusiasts, I’m game illiterate.  However, there is one very basic principle about the cherished sport that I’ve learned only from the resigned disillusions of elders at the end of their worn-out theoritic conversations:  It’s not a game anymore.

That one returning truth is a disrespectful reality that will spray any enjoyable sports discussion to death on contact like Raid.  The best athletes, the most colorful managers, the greatest writers and broadcasters, none will dissolve the piercing reality it all seeks to blanket.  It may seek to entertain and engage, and it had better. But it’s certainly not an honest game, the organic creation it once was well more than a century ago.

Food in these United States is no different.  To hear the historians tell it, bread didn’t exactly begin as some synthetic biochemical sponge in a plastic bag, ingestion of which can lead almost immediately to various stomach and autoimmune conditions.  But there is in fact a reason the product today successfully exists in name as an almost entirely non-food-based product on every store shelf in the country.

The earliest television programs gracing the earliest wooden-housed tubes in the late 1940s in the U.S, mostly along the East Coast, where signals were very much alive, were the only offerings the founding communes could invent: Live, original dramatic creations, stage plays made exclusively for television.  Some of the greatest American 20^th century drama saw it’s premiere on those screens, and would be further immortalized in silver-screen adaptations.  Within a year or two however, as the medium advanced, along with audience size, the drama anthologies were eradicated and replaced by predictable little numbers, neatly timed and produced film productions on the Hollywood lots, action and adventure movies in convenient prime-time increment formats.  You wouldn’t hear the name Paddy Chaefsky again for twenty-five years, when he’d surface as the screenwriter for an acerbic satire called Network.

The string tying all these historic ornaments is the coaxial cable that binds our nation: The Industrial Complex.  And why should it begin and end with the arts..?  How about our health..?

Of course, to say that our personal health has been arbitrarily farmed out to profit-seeking industry is probably kind of hyperbole.  We generally in this day and age however tend to misuse the term “health” as an abbreviation for what we’ve been trained to rely upon in our modern culture, which is “health care”.

In itself, that’s a term too broad to instantly analyze, except to readily acknowledge the fact that we don’t own it.  It’s long been made clear to us American civilians that in no unconditional way are we ever to be in command of our personal and intimate health effectively, without the arbitrary aid of what we can now call the Health Care Industrial Complex. 

How long has this been going on..?  Well, let’s go back to early civilization and see if we can trace it.  The Greek societies of B.C, the ones we read about, but no one’s great grandparents were quite around to live in, were presumably not too unhealthy. People ate only sparingly, subsisted on what we now define as Mediterranean diets, little meat and plenty of Omega-3 based nuts and vegetables. Most every citizen was in a trade or applied skill of some sort and was actively building or creating every day, being physical and working up an appetite they had no time or willingness to sit down and merely feed.  Work and repetition-based inflammation and injury meant therapy and occasionally some medical advice from the trusted neighborhood sage, who likely maintained the plant-based tinctures and exercise directives necessary to get the injured up off the bench post-haste. 

Sure, when I was a kid, we had hospitals, and they were full of patients, my folks among them.  But it wasn’t until somewhere in the early 1990s that the essence of medications and illness talk moved from the bedsides of the elderly into the enchanted land of prime-time television continuity, full-time. That cherished landscape of cars, colas, shampoos and fragrances, models in jeans and frozen-food jingles were now invaded by scrolls of prescription fine-print and mysterious consonant-heavy medication names, with no definition on what they do, except that you should “ask your doctor”.

The iconic image of the American Male by the mid 90s was oddly no longer a slim-jeaned, forest-headed contemporary.  It was a crew-cut, balding, overweight chap visibly beyond his years, clad in loose khakis and a tent-size untucked plaid short-sleeved canvas top.  He would often be seen in print ads in a solitary tearfulness, the surrounding copy questioning if this is true sorrow, or a testosterone crisis..? This, by the dawn of the Millenium, was the all-new lasting paradigm.

What drove the creation..?  Supposedly an abundance of convenience foods had rendered a society too fat, electronic convenience leaving our constituency clinically unexercised, and a casino of mis-prescribed ask-your-doctor pharmaceutical panaceas autoimmune deficient.  But wherein was the benefit of this movement, was it in fact premeditated, and who actually made out like bandits..?

Whatever windfall came to the pharmas would ultimately lead to a run on the health care industry….hard.  Quiet voices would begin to remind us that our own precious health begins only with our own proactive awareness and practice.  Hospitals and M.D.s alike might stand by that philosophy, but they can’t enforce it.  They can only treat what’s put before them, and for that, the minibar gets rung up accordingly.

Enter the Health Care Crisis.  Unaffordable deductibles put to people whose wage job-provided packages are leaving them with less and less rent money in the bank each month. And those are the privileged ones. 

Of course, at a time like this, no one’s any different from anyone.  If you want to stay alive, health care coverage of any sort is a basic requirement, right..?  In order to beat the fierce demons our parents couldn’t slay, you need each and every annual test and exam, unconditionally.  We’re not living in the Dark Ages anymore.  This isn’t 1959.

What could possibly deter a health care subscriber, even one far behind the eight-ball of affordability, with an unapproachably high four-figure annual deductible, from indulging mightily in those preventative exams, that the insurance package gallantly covers at one-hundred per cent…?  A friend of mine shared with me her reluctance based upon one significant and immediate economic factor:  Were anything untoward to be discovered or arbitrarily acted upon as a result of said preventative, the coverage ends right then and there.  Let the out-of-pocked deductible begin.  She said it was just unaffordable right now.   Hence, prevention loses out to the economic caution of fear.

But at least however, she does have health care.  What would she do without it…? I never really questioned that postulate until I learned the stats on just how many middle-incomers in the cities have in recent years been all but forced to forgo health care coverage entirely, in the wake of Obamacare laws.  The very provision the old laws were meant to provide people with for their own good managed to fail and haywire into a movement eradicating that provision for many.  Many of these folks will manage to save a few bucks until of course something serious flares up, or an injury happens.  And when it does, the payout will probably amount to little more than the deductible costed to the friend of theirs with their job’s health plan. 

Hence, at the skyrocketing rates we’re seeing now, supposedly the result of laws, lobbies, corporate buyouts and payouts, political war games, malpractice suits, NASDAQ indexes, and people having to simply pay their rent and utilities (Food..? There’s plenty of banks around, and good neighbors never let their brethren and their children go hungry….it’s perhaps the last vestige of civilized society we know, and thank God for it..), perhaps this trendy, industrial product known as Health Care isn’t necessarily as critical to our lives as coffee or social media, and just may be on it’s way to becoming the bourgeois, boutique item the print and online ads make the providers out to be, handsome and attractive young practitioners beaming through their medical-blue scrubs, just waiting to caress your panicked arrythmia.  A return to the truly proactive society held by the primitive Greek cities may be our educated destination.  We might even get to the theater a little more often for some good entertainment.  And see a ball game.  The real kind.  Without analytics.  That’ll go back into the schools, where it belongs.

Noah F.

 

Dig That Shine..

 

Farewell to the relevance of those arcane $500.words finally at once given dollar value by SAT prep courses nationwide.  As functioning, practical grownups we need words that serve our immediate business and personal needs with top efficacy.  We don’t need synonyms.  What we need are euphemisms.

There is no such category or section of challenge on the SAT exam to this day, far as I know.  And if you really want to go all To Sir With Love, and use public education as a tool for life prep, clearly that’s the category needed.  Euphemistic verbosity is very much an elite art, held by only the most clever, and not necessarily the most well-read. At its most effective, it parlays as amusing, well-taken, and if skillful, candidly accepted by even the most uncooperative.  But amidst a cottage industry of aptitude exams, one principal is tacitly understood: You can’t teach it.

The unguarded science known as “AI” hasn’t yet really been put to it either, for just that reason.  Most humans don’t yet know how to do it.  Verbiage Is kind of a dangerous science. Do it wrong, and you’ve insulted and incited half the population. Do it right, and you’ve accomplished nothing but disrespect.  Do it effectively, and you’ve suddenly got a battery of enemies. 

Somewhere in the last decade or more however, the Secret Tribunal of Word Developers, trusted with the direct injection of new terms and pledges into our daily working societal vocabulary, people who likely scored no more than a laughable 1100 or less on their SATs when Jagged Little Pill was on sale at the Virgin Megastore, smashed a rock of a new word into our working lives.  It’s a euphemism, to be sure, and a word as common as a $100 prize winner on You Bet Your Life.

That word is transparent.

Hell, I remember that word.  If you’re an old enough Gen-X’er, it was the key selling point of Future floor wax, in that ubiquitous commercial you kept seeing as a first-grader on your aunt’s living room Zenith during the breaks in Days Of Our Lives.  The kid in the Judo gear would be stomping on an acrylic floor you could see through, thanks to that magic, windshield-clear syrup. Transparent was the take-away word purred by the lady narrator. 

Suddenly, a word life-long associated with the merits of Windex now defines a behavior, a personal practice, immediately representative of one’s values.  What a phenomenal invention.  One of those “What took them so long to come up with something so simple..?!” creations.

The term was developed for use on the professional front.  It has yet to really transcend into the intimately personal realm, and there’s good reason for that. While It seems to serve the immediate needs of the professional interoffice proscenium, as far as anything personally communicative, it’s in no way potent enough.

The current day term transparent as we know it thus far, meets a conveniently polite standard in fulfilling a very immediate need.  Corporate and business settings are composed on almost any level, of staffs of people.  Within those staffs are enclosed teams of two or more, within which strategies are composed and executed, followed in practice.  Multiply that by a few office floors and you’ve got yourself a small nation of interworking strategies composed and controlled by various leaders. Everything works with quiet efficiency, a calming purr that moves to the beat of the office Muzak.  Then, all of a sudden, on any given, unassuming day, something in the chain fractures.  A piece of information is needed about something that happened four months ago.  Documentation is missing.  What the hell happened..?! Zoom Meeting in 20 Minutes..!

Suddenly, the team circle has a “Contra-gate” on their hands. Maybe.  That’s if they can’t get to the innocent bottom of all this.  But what the young, crew-necked corporate leaders on the Zoom meeting are going to implore of all participants first and foremost, is that they be absolutely transparent in their responses and directives here.  What do those handsome sweater models mean..?

Defined, transparency entails full accuracy.  Precision in detailed information.  As well, you’re expected to tell everything.  Leave no detail out.  It’s your golden opportunity to disparage the whole thing by boring the room to smithereens like Edith Bunker, describing every second of that mysterious day from the breakfast you ate to the towel you chose to use in the shower.  But you’d better not be that clever.  This whole meeting wouldn’t have been called if someone in the building hadn’t royally f$*&d up to begin with.

And in corporate practice, as the science effectively goes, the tacitly achieved result of that Zoom meeting Is a successfully logged company effort to confront, resolve and repair the situation.  The shattered antique mirror certainly won’t be glued back together and made brand new.  In fact, in a pooled concentration of transparency, there will be no revelation, admitted or otherwise as to how that mirror got mysteriously shattered. But the resolve to offer maybe a nice new hand mirror or compact will be the conclusive and winning handover, made possible only by the dedicated effort of a very inventive team, whose pronounced dedication to transparency makes this delicate process possible.

That whole flowchart proves just how ignorant this old-schooler probably is with regard to this magical new term he’s yet to fully embrace as such.  I seem to remember a perfectly good word that defined a practice dictated out of every loudly-spoken mouth of every teacher and grownup around me in my sound upbringing. Maybe you remember it as well.  It was the word honest.

If I didn’t know better, and clearly I don’t, it would seem as though somewhere, ten years into the new Millenium, business keepers of sorts found the desperate need to re-instill some new-age embrace of this principle to team members, staffers, co-workers and employees all, a kind of re-leveling of personal practice just to maintain our sense of gravity, and not float off into some dreamy 1980s Wall Street freedom of appropriation.  What was the takeaway of the 80’s culture, anyway..? The so-called “bubble” of the 90s only kind of serviced it a little more, and even though neckties seemed to go the way of hula hoops about twenty years ago, the geometric pattern of tailored suits was restored, and with it came this need for restored order, something a brand new, well younger generation of office residents with laptops and opaque plate glass walls and doors would have to learn how to command.  New culture, new word..!

But it is in fact a new definition entirely.  No one is replacing the word honesty, which is what we continue to teach our children daily, as a value and practice.  Transparency is a practice and value of intercorporate convenience, and as such, requires a level of achieved skill and candor, decision making and temperance.  In execution upon the given situation at hand to be addressed, one needs to consider just what information is relevant, how best to deliver, and what in fact needs not be delivered, as existent as that reality might be.  It’s about one’s intention, if not so much an exact police report on the incident itself.  It’s not so much the facts, as the presentation, and the well-meant thought and extremely careful and mature consideration that counts.  While few Americans never came to terms with the aftermath of Watergate, it’s clear that the remaining functional committees of Washington D.C. and the appointees of the suddenly promoted, and forgiving President seemed to have no problem with it.  How could they…? We’ve got a job to do and a business to get on with.  Any fool can see that.

Clearly, the situation remains one transparent.

 

Noah F.

 

 

"You Don't Know Something Else When You See It...?!"

 

Only my mother could certify the fact that indeed I was not your average kid.  And much as I know she appreciated that, it’s quite possible that on occasion, she dreamed otherwise.

It was the summer of 1977 when this Mountain Dew commercial, a very Clio-worthy thirty second musical with slow motion cliff leaps into foamy streams, starring a cast of absolutely young, gorgeous fashion-model bathing-suited teens cut right through the fuzz on my mom’s 1961 black-n-white RCA portable. I was nine years old, a perennial life-long Charlie Brown, never any friends, but lots of unidentified enemies.  My time was best and most rewardingly spent alone with my imagination and action figures and accessories.  Most kids’ heroes back then were Pele, Luke Skywalker and Steve Austin.  Mine were Woody Allen, Peter Sellers and Bob Dylan (“Hard Rain” sat atop my 8-track pile).  I was unfashionably overweight, hair like a windstormed haystack, and I found the image of the Disco culture only more disturbing than a circus of clowns and whipped, trained elephants.  Earlier that year, my mother handed me her 1951 copy of Catcher In The Rye and said I might find the narrative interesting.  After two pages I decided I could compose my own memoir the same way, only cleaner, and proceeded to do so.  After making the mistake of sharing my work with my younger cousin, whose troublesome profile I disclosed in my writing, his angered response shattered my memoir intentions for awhile.  Every writer needs to learn a few hard early lessons.  Even Salinger went into hiding afterward.

And now here we were in our quaint, humid little flat, me hundreds of miles from my one or two prior block friends, the only ones who came close to “getting me”.  Now it was all Bad Day At Black Rock, for the most part.  Thank goodness my mom at least got me.  But even then, she could, almost despite herself sometimes, leave me stranded.  Like when this ad flowered upon us.

This gorgeous, technicolor splash hit the screen (in rustic black & white..), the folk tune chirping “Gimme a mountain, and nothin’ to do..” as the hot models dived, splashed and guzzled from long-necked bottles of a beverage commonly known as the sugar-coma-inducing bloat-intensive soft drink to end them all.  And my mom in her dreamy M-G-M-musical-scored brainscape says to me, “You know, I picture you as one of those kids one day…”

While portions of me characteristically wrote it off in “yeah, right..” fashion, unable to ever see my self image in the hot, sexy pictoral, for the first time, unidentified portions of me became offended.

Was this image preferable to the image I currently held.?  Was I supposed to pine and scale myself toward that hot, beautiful, perfect-haired, rail-thin, six-pack-ab’d image to become worthy in even my mother’s eyes, let alone that of general society..?

Moreover, did my mother, a woman veering into her post-alcoholic AA years and learning in her late forties to embrace recovery, unable to see that 1970s youth image for what it was misrepresenting itself as..?  Somehow, at my tender, formidable age, life in these 1970s taught me enough about What Kids Are Really Doing amongst one another by a creek at that age.  And if they’ve got long-necked Mountain Dew bottles with them, Mountain Dew is definitely not what they’re swilling from the inside.   And their other packed treats aren’t exactly Mallomars.

Did she really not know this..?  Was my mother, a notably well-read sophisticate who couldn’t stop lecturing me at her leisure (and mine) about Emily Bronte and Henry James, unable to recognize the poison of the advertised image..? 

I never did become one of those goodtime hotties.  Years later, when I actually tried some Mountain Dew, I certainly didn’t know how anyone swilling that stuff could deep dive off a cliff into a stream and swim for their life.  But the day I heard my mom swoon over that ad and her romantic image of her son’s pending teenhood, I was bolstered with the best inner response possible.  I was proud to know one thing: I’d never be them.   And with due respect to the great actors in that commercial, I’m pretty sure none of them ever were either.  We were probably all much more like each other than we realized.

It's amazing how right mothers can be.

 

Noah F.